Door en voor mensen met een visuele beperking en hun omgeving Of and for visual impaired people and their social environment | |
Dear parents, dear audience, Thank you for waiting so long, thank you for
being here, after a long and intensive day. I hope I do not disappoint you with
my personal story, based on: “Welcome to Holland” from Emiley Pearl. I was the chair of the parent organization in
the Netherlands, and now I have my own voluntary organization, with parents and
a blind chair, also people with visual impairment. I am
involved in ICEVI from 2002, after Dr. Herman A. Gresnigt and Dr. Hans Welling
asked me to undertake the voluntary job, chair of parents. If I can do it, you can do it as
well. The
importance of cooperating. Who is somebody without the other; Everybody needs
somebody, from my eyes to your heart. As a parent of a child
with visual impairment, I am very pleased to tell you all something about the
experience of a parent, so you may listen to my parent story. I am a Mom of a
beautiful lady. My daughter is now 25 years old and I always say: she is beautiful
outside and also inside. Laura is her name.
She is a student of management, economics and law, and she already graduated
with her Bachelors. On this moment she is starting the Premaster for It and Process
management, a study for 2,5 years and we hope afterwards she will have her Master’s
degree. Laura was born healthy;
after vaccinations, when she was a baby, she developed rheumatics and because
of that she got uveitis and that is an infection in her eyes. It cost me very
many emotional moments; I had to find my own way into this other world. I survived by trying to
cooperate with the professionals in this world. This was going up and down. At
this moment I am allowed to negotiate with my government, not that they offer
me a magic stick but they listen to me, and try to support. About my great and also
beautiful daughter, at this moment she only can see with one eye light and dark
and the other one just 0.5. She is doing reasonably well. She likes to study
and to work but it costs her very much energy. She is now recovering from a
burnout. She has to learn to say this is ok for today, no more, stop now!! She
is doing a voluntary job, treasurer (bookkeeping) for some hours by the air
force base in our village, and she likes that very much, she can fly now and
then that is great is it not? They arrange special monitor for hers so she can
see more, they pick her up when it’s dark, because then she cannot find her own
way. These are her lessons to
learn and together with us she/ we can do it. She had very good amiable
teachers and they can convince her to do what she can do and what she cannot do
to keep her energy to live, not only surviving. She likes to live on her
own, she had her own house and a dog (not a guiding dog) with support from us,
her mom and dad, doing the administration, some shopping etc and some help from
others to clean her house. Every country has its
own culture, but I think that every parent will recognise my story I would like
to share with you to reach empowerment and cooperation. Together we can reach
more. “”Most people can't
imagine what it means to have a child that is disabled. To understand which
emotion is involved, please, try to think about all the things that do change
in your life when you enter into this other world you don't know yet. Lots of things are
changing, there are lessons to be learned, you have to build yourself on this
road and you have to get information. You must now learn a language that
differs from the one you originally intended. On this road you meet other
people than you had planned; people you never met before. It’s actually a
totally different world. Everything is a little
bit slower and differs from the life without disability. But this also makes
your world bigger and more glamorous than you could ever have expected. After a
while you are there: you begin to look around you and you suddenly notice that
it is possible for you to live in this world. There are so many interesting
things you come into contact with and can be involved in and so many
interesting people you can cooperate with. Never ever forget, you
don't have to do this alone. Try to involve your family, your friends. You can
talk about the problems, and you can talk about the successes you have. There are wonderful
things to share! Never suppose that “they” know, tell them!! It can be a
tremendous pitfall if you don't! The pain that you feel will never, never leave
you; these things will be with you for the rest of your life. It is the loss of
your entire dream. But, please, don't spend the rest of your life grieving
over the fact that you don't have a healthy child! Try to find people who are
willing to reach out a helping hand and to cooperate with you. If you don't,
you will never be free and you will never be able to open yourself up for the
special and beautiful things that you will find on the way.”” Inclusion means to
cooperate, to try to find out: what, why? The others (the helpers, the
organisations) do things the way they have to do them. Try to be deeply
involved in this world - your world, their world; do not attack the people you
find on the way, try to work together with them so that in the end you will
never ever have to say: if only... In the end you will be
stronger and can be proud of yourself and your child. You enter a world you
have never dreamt of. Believe in your strength as a parent; do always follow
your instincts, above all do always believe in the possibilities of your child,
it’s amazing. Let us share: our
knowledge our skills, and cooperate together, we as parents with the
professionals and the governments. It’s not only money, it
is empathy, time and interest, that is what we achieve when we share our
experience and empower the parent on behalf of the child and you as
professionals will have done a great job. When everybody
cooperates and asks their colleagues from other disciplines for information it
could work. But this requires time, the expertise of each other’s disciplines
and sometimes brings to light gaps in communication or cooperation or even
expertise. A worse problem is that only too often people assume they know all
about the other colleague’s discipline and don’t ask. The parents or family of
the visually impaired were affirmed to be important, yet often not (enough)
consulted as sources of information about the environment. SHARING,
COOPERATION and TRUST can be the magic words. Never forget that the
client (child and/or parent) sees you as the knowledgeable expert and wants to
put their trust in you and the support system. If the client feels he can trust
you, he will be very motivated to follow your advice, use aids and cooperate.
Keep in mind that it only works if the client totally agrees with the set goals
and if different professionals give well coordinated advice; that will settle
and deepen the client’s faith both in your expertise and in the system. Let’s hope that this
conference will work like a snowball; the more we talk about it, the more it
can help all of us to do even better for the visually impaired child or client. I end my short review by
stating that the involvement of clients and/or parents is of utter importance.
For the ICEVI worldwide this cooperation is growing; we already are cooperating
with parents from USA, Malaysia, New Zealand, Israel, etc. Dr. Elke Wagner
states that the partnership of professionals with parents in ICEVI should
increase. Feedback from parents is useful, (free information/advice) crucial
in all the processes for modifying and discussing the changes. I
have offered the Foundation Mita stimabo (www.mitastimabo.nl)
to help realise this. Please pass on to me at mitastimabo@planet.nl, names, websites and e-mail addresses of parents’
organisations you know. I will then contact them. Dr. Elke Wagner and I will
see what we can do to support parents who want to be involved in ICEVI. Dr.
Wagner is the contact person for parent’s organisations in Germany. Thank you for your
interest and let’s do it together. It is a challenge to go for the solid
participation of parents in the whole of Europe and the world. We also have our parents
organisation IPAVI (International Parent Assosiation Visual impaired) You can e-mail to: Warm regards Angelette Akkermans Met vriendelijke groet, Angelette Akkermans Oprichtster/ secretaris Mi ta stimabo 0031 161 230205 www.mitastimabo.nl | mitastimabo@planet.nl |